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Rainbow Medicine-Walker's avatar

Wow. Thank you for this enlightening essay. I have heard hints about and seen glimpses of this widespread problem, and it is good to get some professional on the ground conformation about the harsh reality of the situation, even if the truth is depressing as hell.

Nicole Ann's avatar

My mind was exploding with responses and personal connections, as I read your piece. Thank you, so much.

For the past 3 school years, in addition to teaching students with moderate to severe disabilities, I have been tasked with teaching 2 classes of students who are in general education and receive special ed support. My class is a forced elective, for these students. Nearly all of them are boys. The first year, they were 2 large classes full of students with behavioral challenges and referrals. The last 2 years, it's been an executive functioning/study skills class for students who struggle to pay attention. These classes are NINETY minutes long and forced upon middle school boys, grades 6-8. Recipe for disaster.

Some of these boys are ready to jump out of their skin, with excess energy. I'm thankful, for 34 years of being a mother to 3 boys who were exhaustingly challenging when they were younger. I made mistakes and learned from them. I can step back and see how many ways we are failing these kids and have absolutely insane expectations of them. I am forced to be on this ride, along with them, to keep a roof over my family's head, since my options are very slim.

I see students who would benefit from a shop class or extra time in PE. I see students who would benefit from very physical electives and opportunities to make things with their hands and learn about what they're capable of. I think these are things they would enjoy and get much more out of. But, nobody is going go listen to me, on anything. I've been shown that, very quickly. So, the best I can do is support students who try to transfer to a class they'd enjoy.

Who needs 90 minutes, 2-3 times a week, to talk about how to stay on top of their homework and classwork? It's an exercise in futility, for all of us. The classes are completely idealistic and give parents false hope. You want one of the fun electives, with your peers? You have to endure 2 years of this kind of stuff, first, maybe 3. Maybe, when you're in 8th grade, you might get lucky and get into Art class. Further complicating this issue as that most of my students are not fluent in reading/writing in English and many are not fluent in reading/writing in their native language, either. Yet, the expectations for them to perform (ie successfully pass standardized tests) have been dramatically increased. Oh, we're now asking Kindergarteners to do homework and thinking it's a great idea to push Algebra in 6th grade. One year, an entire school's 4th grade classes had to go backwards, 2 quarters, because none of the kids had the foundational skills needed to move forward. Last year, apparently 50% of our school failed their reading tests. Yet, we need to double down and push harder.

Sadly, I was one of those vulnerable, trusting, and profoundly naive parents when I was young. I was heavily pressured, by a school Principal, into seeking out medication for one of my kids, for boyish behavior that was completely normal and allowed when I was a child. Behaviors now banned in school. I did not know that they were wrong. But, I did listen to my child and got them off the medication.

We have to control children in order to force them to complete unreasonable, developmentally inappropriate tasks. But, no one is listening. You should see the nutty expectations of my work-skills classes. Students who will never work, never volunteer, never live without nursing support, are expected to be in a work skills class, where I ask them questions to plan their future careers, at the age of 11. I wish I was joking. I have a student who has his fingers in his mouth all day, holding a rubber chewy item. He drools, picks sores in his skin, bangs his head on the desk, and makes incessant noises. He paces the room, with an awkward walk due to many surgeries and physical disabilities. This is how he spends his school days. He does not speak, does not follow instructions, and you cannot assist him with physical activities as he will fully resist any efforts. Yet, I am supposed to teach him about the world of work and plan his future career. The same level of utopian fantasyland here. I could go on, with many more unreasonable examples. It all comes from the same misguided place.

The theory is that we are starting early, because they need more time. We are doing things that are developmentally inappropriate for students without disabilities, because the students are developmentally delayed. Yet, this makes sense to these people. The same people who destroyed Kindergarten and think it's perfectly sound to have a 5 year old learn to read and require them to take tests and do homework.

I am right there, with you, trying not to lose my mind. The best I can do is keep as much sane reality as possible, when these kids are in my room. I get it.

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